-Steve, Dad of Two
-Ashley and Kerry, Parents of Two
-Michelle, Mom of Five
1. “You are SAFE with me.”
Before parents ask, “What should I do?” it’s important to ask “What’s going on?” As we take an honest look at what’s going on in us in the heat of the moment, we can work to be emotionally safe parents. Our kids learn best when they feel safe!
2. “You are LOVED no matter what.”
The next step is about communicating to our kids that they are loved no matter what! This can happen anytime, but the “golden opportunity” of connection comes where you’d least expect it — in the middle of misbehavior! Effective empathy when kids are struggling communicates love in a powerful way, calms defiance, and paves the way for wiser choices (on everyone’s part!).
3. “You are CALLED AND CAPABLE.”
Once we’ve built a strong message of safety and love into our kids, we can find and build strengths in kids, even in misbehavior! We can ask thoughtful questions, guide their choices, and even help them use the intensity and gifts that contributed to the misbehavior for more honoring purposes. This builds their identity as capable of doing good things!
4. “You are RESPONSIBLE for your actions.”
Often parents want to skip right to this message — “I need to hold my child responsible!” But this message builds on the other three. This fourth message is more about helping kids take ownership of their life and their actions than simply enforcing punishments for bad behavior.
The workshop equips parents with practical tools for effective discipline and ends with an uplifting call to action: Let go of your primary (and exasperating) goal of trying to manage your kids’ behavior. Start mentoring their belief, empower them to manage their own behavior, and watch kindness and wisdom grow in your family! This isn’t a quick fix. But it is a lasting fix. What will you do to take the next step toward becoming a more grace-filled parent, even in the midst of discipline challenges?
Goals and Outcomes for Audience
Audience members will learn a simple but powerful framework to help them be thoughtful about the messages they’re communicating to their children through their parenting.
Audience members will leave inspired and empowered to embody God’s love to their children — even in the midst of discipline challenges!
This workshop is presented by FamilyLife Canada staff upon request. Our speakers have been trained by Connected Families, the creators of the Discipline that Connects workshop model and parenting principles. To gain a sense of the material, here’s one of our staff couples teaching an introduction to DTC.