Today’s parents have a new twist on an age old parenting dilemma, keep informed on what our kids are doing and why they want to do it. What is the nature of their interest? The answer to this question may surprise some of us who are somewhat fearful and micro focused on the ominous “Big Bad” stuff (porn, bullying, predators, sexting, etc.). Yes, we need to protect and educate about the “Big Bad”, but that isn’t (necessarily) what motivates our kids. At the heart of adolescence is a need to belong and fit in. This need often drives the desire behind the next social media request, trip to the mall, new music, movie, etc.

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Learning Together

Navigating the parental minefield of social media and the internet is possible and many of us parents are doing a fantastic job. We may stumble along the way – after all we are human and so are our kids – but stumbling doesn’t equate to becoming victims of the worst case scenarios we hear all too often in the news

Another time tested wisdom is “It takes a village to raise a family”. Our current “village” appears very different than the village our parents raised most of us in; but the idea is the same. We parents are in this together. So let’s share ideas. Support one another. Keep the dialogue open. And in doing so, maintain a safe and healthy village for our kids to grow and be nurtured in.

What does your village look like?  We would love for you to join the conversation. Share with us your ideas, quotes, websites on our Facebook page. If you like it, we’d love to know about it! And chances are, so would someone else! In the meantime here are a few “Village Snippets” we’ve discovered along the way.

5 “Village Snippets”

1. Parents, “Don’t freak out!” says, Jonathan McKee at Source for Parents. His great advice for us comes from his post 4 Steps to Asking Well-Placed Questions.

2. Net Nanny blog and internet filter products.

3. Do we understand chat language? While we may know LMK or TTYL, but what about:

143?  Answer: I love you.
CD9? Answer: Parents are around
Chat acronyms by Net Lingo

4. Parents, have we considered our internet IQ? Here is an internet safety quiz.

5. A post we love: Here’s How I Keep My Boy Safe-ish on the Interwebs by: Glennon Doyle Melton

Quotes to Consider

“It’s not you I don’t trust. It’s the app and others out there.” Lisa Pike, FamilyLife Canada Staff

“What I’m suggesting is that when you need privacy for your thoughts, perhaps think them in your head. Or go into your room and write them down inside a diary. I promise never to read your diary. A diary is private. The internet is public. Different things.” Glennon Doyle Melton  (See more)

“Tell me more, what did she mean by that?” Jonathan McKee, 4 Steps to Asking Well-Placed Questions.

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“Give appropriate responsibility, so they learn how to make decisions.” Beth Scholes, FamilyLife Canada Staff

Posts Coming this Month

A 6 Step Digital Family Plan
Help! I Found Porn on My Child’s Device
Teaching Our Kids How to Be Wise with Digital Media
Parents! Some Things You Need to Know About Technology and Pornography
Independent Thinkers
And more. . .

Written by Beth Scholes

Beth Scholes

Beth is passionate about helping families not just survive but thrive. Beth works for FamilyLife Canada as Content Manager. She married Darcy in 1989, they have three children. She is currently enjoying parenting teens and a young adult. Beth loves to read, roller-blade, play board games and socialize.