It happens almost immediately from the moment we find out there’s a human we are now going to be responsible for raising.
It makes sense though. Upon pregnancy alone we’re bombarded with questions and statistics about what we can and can’t eat, which vitamins to take, what drinks to avoid, and how much exercise is really okay. Once that little one is born and we have them in our arms there comes a whole new set of fears. Are they eating enough and sleeping enough and why are they crying that particular cry?
As they move up to toddlerhood, we fear they might choke on a marble or run out across a parking lot. Never mind the fact that they’ve discovered climbing! Plus, there’s always the worry that they might take a tumble off of the play structure they managed to bolt to the top of without us even noticing.
Unfortunately, the stress doesn’t subside when they enter their teen years. Sure, we may not be as worried about their climbing ability but we do start thinking about other things. There’s alcohol and drugs, dating and sexuality, and how they’re spending their time online. We wonder who they’re hanging out with, what sort of families their friends come from and what exactly they’re going to be doing at that party. We sneak their phones to find out who they’re texting and if the sort of words they’re using are appropriate. (Admit it! We’ve all done it!)
As they become adults it only continues. We can worry about who they’re going to marry, their choice of career…the list could really go on and on.
No matter what stage we are in, as parents, we have to face our fears. If we don’t deal with them properly we can either become overprotective and stifling, or the opposite: nonchalant and careless. Overcoming these fears helps prevent poor parenting decisions. To help parents face their fears, we’ve come up with 5 things that we think are critical.
Here’s the first one: