Building a Secure Family: Check the Atmosphere

//Building a Secure Family: Check the Atmosphere

Building a Secure Family: Check the Atmosphere

What is the atmosphere in your home these days? Calm? Hectic? Loving? Tense?

Do a check up today and pause to intentionally feel the atmosphere that is created inside your home. Be intentional about the environment your family is immersed in within your walls.

Electronic devices are wonderful conveniences, great tools, yet if we are not intentional about adjusting the atmosphere of warmth and connection within our homes, these devices can silently erode our lives and leave cool isolation instead of warm interaction.  

One quick way to check the atmosphere is to listen to the words that bounce around the house. Has chatter slowed as heads are down, focused on ipads and iphones? Silence is its own indicator that the atmosphere is eroding. The words that come out of our mouths are key to the environment we help create.

You can adjust the atmosphere around you today. You can increase the security, the calm, the acceptance and interaction, and even the peace that can exist within your walls. Purposefully listen and intentionally put these words to work in your family now. The exercise seems too simple. Yet the results can be tangibly felt.

  • Put in more “we” and less “me”.

It’s easy to become self centered within our homes. If you feel you are the one doing most of the “heavy lifting” in the relationships, your mindset will focus on “me” thinking. Stop and rethink what is best for “we”. Talk it out when the moment is right.

Example: Change “I’m exhausted!” to “Let’s take a break and sit on the step together with a drink.”  Set a timer if you have to and take a “we” pause without technology.

  • The two most important words are, “Thank you”.

When our gratitude runs thin so does our patience. Look for things to be grateful for in each other. Day to day elbow rubbing can dull the edge of appreciation in a relationship. Lack of thankfulness breeds irritation. Look for qualities you can say thank you for as well as actions.

Example: “Thank you for doing that. It was very thoughtful of you.”  

  • Look for opportunities to invite interaction and engage in what is going on within your walls. Don’t isolate yourself behind screens. Draw others out who tend to.

Ask: “What do you think about that?”

        “How can I help?”

   “Would you like to go for a quick walk?”

Intentionally taking a few moments to connect will reap benefits in warming up the atmosphere in your home.

If your response to others is often, “Just a minute”, do you get back to what was being asked or just let the interaction slide?

Make eye contact. Take a moment to pause and look at the other person when you speak. Often within our walls we call out from one room or even text from another. Up the value of interaction in your home by being intentional about it.

Example: “Thanks for putting your ipad down and looking at me when you said that. I enjoy hearing what’s going on with you.”

Giving a warm touch or a hug spontaneously can add warmth too. Make sure those who are significant to you know that they are. In this day of high technology, it’s important to be deliberate in adjusting the atmosphere of our homes. Cool tensions can melt in the face of genuine interest and caring. Be on guard against slow erosion and warm up your home environment with these basic but vital efforts. You won’t regret it.

 

Read More:

Building Blocks to a Significant Life

Are People Our Priority?

Written by Gail Rodgers

Gail Rodgers

Gail Rodgers enjoys writing and applying the truths of the Bible to
everyday living. She and her husband live in Alberta, Canada and enjoy working together, traveling and spending time with their grown family.
Please visit Gail Rodgers’ website at www.gailrodgers.ca

2018-06-25T11:10:27+00:00By |Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , |