Home security companies build their business on the fear of home invasions. There is a new type of home invasion that has slipped past all security systems. The intruder is technology.

The numbers are staggering: there are 8 cell phone connections for every 10 Canadians. The US and several other countries have more cell phone connections than people. Then consider the number of computers, tablets, TV’s and game systems that have been welcomed into the average home.


A classic home invasion is most often a robbery. Technology is no exception. The undisciplined use of our devices is robbing precious moments of relational interaction.


We have all experienced it. We’re in the middle of a conversation, and it’s interrupted by the notification of a call, text or Facebook post. The conversation falls victim to this technological intruder. In these moments, it might be easy to conclude that our spouse thinks someone is more important than us.

Technology opens the door to an unseen crowd that invades and distracts from personal space and time together.

  • Some couples have decided to deal with technology by having no TV or computers in the bedroom.
  • Others have set the boundary of no technology during all meals and social times.
  • In the area of technology and trust, couples share all passwords and give open access to their partner.

What Can You Do?

Discuss how technology is invading your home:

How often does technology interrupt conversation or personal time?

Do you have specific technology boundaries for social situations?

Is trust an issue with your technology use?

Are you allowing undesirable guests into your lives via the technology door?

Wondering about kids and technology? Check out these articles:

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Written by Mike Woodard

Mike Woodard

Mike is married to Karen, he is father of 4 and grandfather of 2. Backpacking is his favourite past time. Science and theology are his educational background, a biology degree from Central Michigan University and a master’s degree in Christian Studies from Trinity Western Seminary. Mike is the Associate Director of FamilyLife Canada. For more of his story visit familylifecanada.com/mike