In the crazy busy, media-stimulated life most couples live, how is it that some couples just seem so close and connected? Is it some magical formula? Here are some simple day to day steps that play a role in keeping couples from drifting apart.

Say, “Thank You” even for the simple things that are often taken for granted.

Talk about how you are feeling.

  • Today I was really disappointed when…
  • I’m so excited because…
  • I feel encouraged about…

Ask for Advice. This helps your spouse feel important and included in your life. (Plus, they might have some great ideas!)

Reminisce together about fun times in the past.

Compliment your spouse:

  •  Wow, great dinner!
  • You look great in that…
  • You are a great mom/dad/husband/wife because… Touch Each Other… Non-sexual touch: hugs, hold hands, cuddle.

Call/Text in the middle of the day, just to connect with each other.

Good Bye/Hello… Make a point of saying good bye with a kiss at the beginning of the day and make a point of connecting with each other as soon as you come in the door at night.

What Can YOU Do? Talk about this list and add to it. Add the things that make you feel special, connected and cared for. Pick 2 or 3 you will start applying in the next week. SHARE this with others so that they can start applying these things too!

Written by Mike Woodard

Mike Woodard

Mike is married to Karen, he is father of 4 and grandfather of 2. Backpacking is his favourite past time. Science and theology are his educational background, a biology degree from Central Michigan University and a master’s degree in Christian Studies from Trinity Western Seminary. Mike is the Associate Director of FamilyLife Canada. For more of his story visit