An increasing factor in marriage breakdown is overcommitment. A fast-paced life can produce constant physical and emotional exhaustion. Relationship experts cite over commitment as one of the top five relationship killers.

It’s important for us to ask, “How is our marriage doing?” Healthy relationships require time and attention. How often do we sit, talk or just hang out with no urgent demands? It takes self discipline not to get swept along in a hurried life. Who sets our agenda, you or someone else? Are the expectations realistic?

Symptoms of overcommitment and exhaustion are hard on relationships, and they include:

  • Headaches
  • Sleeplessness
  • Irritability
  • Emotional outbursts
  • Loss of motivation

Relationships take energy! If we give our energy to everything else first, our relationship will suffer and may not survive.

If your relationship is feeling the pinch of over commitments, be intentional; take a serious look at your schedule and make deliberate decisions. Pace, energy and capacity are unique to the individual, so do not compare yourself to others. Are YOU going to survive or thrive if you keep going at this pace? Don’t be fooled by the myth, “It’s just for a little while longer and then things will slow down.” Slowing down today may be exactly what your marriage needs.

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Written by Mike Woodard

Mike Woodard

Mike is married to Karen, he is father of 4 and grandfather of 2. Backpacking is his favourite past time. Science and theology are his educational background, a biology degree from Central Michigan University and a master’s degree in Christian Studies from Trinity Western Seminary. Mike is the Associate Director of FamilyLife Canada. For more of his story visit