January 7, 2015

Thriving relationships shift and grow with time. People committed to building a long-term relationship learn to wear different hats within the relationship. These hats represent our ever changing roles. Here are five common hats in thriving relationships.

Friend: Friends are committed to each other. They share connection and history. Friendship strengthens a relationship; holding couples together through difficult times.

Lover: Mutual sexual intimacy brings deep pleasure and satisfaction. There’s something deeply personal which develops through your years together.

Fighter: Learning to handle conflict, in a healthy way, is integral to lasting relationships.

Manager: Schedules, finances, family dynamics, work, health etc.: all require management. Couples must develop a management system to handle both the complexities and opportunities of life.

Leader: Personal leadership, in a relationship, provides direction, goal setting and a plan to move forward. Questions like, “Where do we see ourselves in five or ten years?” provide direction and enhance relationships.

“Leaders are people who know where they want to go and can take others with them. “  (Howard Hendricks)

Action: How do you delegate roles in your relationship? Which “hat” fits well and which would be a good addition to your “wardrobe”?

Written by Mike Woodard

Mike Woodard

Mike is married to Karen, he is father of 4 and grandfather of 2. Backpacking is his favourite past time. Science and theology are his educational background, a biology degree from Central Michigan University and a master’s degree in Christian Studies from Trinity Western Seminary. Mike is the Associate Director of FamilyLife Canada. For more of his story visit familylifecanada.com/mike