April 22, 2015

Opposites Attract… Positive chemistry flows between people who see and handle the world from a different perspective and with different talents. Introverts may really enjoy having someone leading the way in social situations. Extroverts may admire the one on one focus that flows so easily for the introvert.

Differences Divide…. At some point in almost every relationship, the ”opposite” characteristic is no longer endearing. It takes energy to manage differences. Opposite characteristics can become annoying especially when we are experiencing an energy deficit due to personal challenges, stresses of daily life or emotional drifting.

Be Proactive. Identify your differences and discuss the positive quality and strength each brings to your relationship. Look at this list and identify differences between you and your spouse..

  • Introvert/Extrovert
  • Task/People
  • Facts//Feelings
  • Many Words/Few Words
  • Spender/Saver
  • Digital/Face to Face

These fundamental personality characteristics are not wrong and will not change. Successful couples learn how to value and utilize the strengths in their relationship. They learn to lock arms and to figure out how to complement each other and face the world as a strong unit.

Question: What do you value most about the opposites in your relationship? Do any of the opposites listed create stress or tension in your relationship? How can you better utilize each of your strengths? What would it take to embrace your differences?

Written by Mike Woodard

Mike Woodard

Mike is married to Karen, he is father of 4 and grandfather of 2. Backpacking is his favourite past time. Science and theology are his educational background, a biology degree from Central Michigan University and a master’s degree in Christian Studies from Trinity Western Seminary. Mike is the Associate Director of FamilyLife Canada. For more of his story visit familylifecanada.com/mike