October 22, 2014
An overcommitted husband slips into bed late one night. As he gets in, his wife gets out of bed and says, “I don’t sleep with strangers.” Her point grabbed his attention.
This true story causes me to reflect: how do happy committed newlyweds over time become strangers? It’s not intentional. No one speculates, “Let’s see, in 7 years I will be a stranger to this person.” Yet, too often it happens. The current of life seems to drift toward isolation.
Intentional action is needed to stay connected and growing in closeness. Here are some suggestions:
- Connect once a week to discuss commitments: your calendar, plans, desires, fears and challenges.
- Find something you both enjoy and do it together weekly. It could be as simple as picking one TV show you watch together. Maybe it’s a new hobby. Reading a book together can keep you on the “same page” and connected.
- Plan a date at least once a month. If budget is an issue, plan a creative home date. If you have young children trade babysitting with another couple. Watch for restaurant and event specials.
- Get away for a romantic weekend at least once a year or perhaps take a week every couple of years.
Action: Discuss how you will be intentional about connection and closeness. Add it to your calendar!