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More Sweet Aroma in Your Marriage (Couple’s Conversation)

by | Sep 7, 2022 | Communication, Marriage, Spiritual Connection

What’s the aroma of your marriage?

Every home has an aroma. And that aroma is set by the relationships, the attitudes and the interactions of the people in the home. It comes from inside each of us. The aroma can be warm and inviting, like freshly baked chocolate chip cookies or it can be harsh and offensive like rotten chicken.

Grab your favourite drinks and watch this short video from Sheldon and Valerie Dean to find out what a bag of rotting chicken taught them about the aroma of marriage.

After watching the video, take turns asking and answering the following questions together. Listen actively to each other — with gentleness and humility — so you each feel heard and free to share. 

  1. What is the current aroma (relationship/attitudes/interactions) of our home?
  2. What do we want the aroma (relationship/attitudes/interactions) to be?
  3. How do we get there together?

Date Ideas

Here is a list of possible date ideas to enjoy throughout the month. 

  • Bake chocolate chip cookies together.
    • Take it to the next level and take turns being blind folded as your spouse helps you. Caution — take the blindfold off around the hot stove!
  • Go for a walk together and enjoy nature’s aroma.
  • Each of you pick your favourite activity (within an agreed upon budget) and enjoy the sweet aroma of your friendship while you do the activity together.

More Sweet Aroma with God

When we live lives that are surrendered to the Holy Spirit, our aroma will not only be sweet, it will be delightful. In Galatians 5:22-23 we find a list of what the Holy Spirit produces in us: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

Spend time reflecting on the Holy Spirit’s fruit in your life. In what areas are you allowing his fruit to grow? What areas need your attention?