More Laughter in Your Marriage (Couple’s Conversation)

by | Jan 10, 2023 | Emotional Intimacy, Marriage, Spiritual Connection

Why is laughter such a good thing?

The Mayo Clinic states that laughter enhances our intake of oxygen, stimulates our heart, muscles and lungs and increases the endorphins that are released by the brain. This can actually help reduce some of the physical symptoms of stress. 

And if you’re married, stress is likely an occasional visitor in your home!

Did you know… a great belly laugh increases and then decreases our blood pressure and heart rate. The result? A laid back stress response which translates to a good, relaxed vibe.

So we say — bring on the laughter!

Grab your favourite unhealthy, salty snack of choice along with a fizzy beverage and watch this short video from Rennier and Jeaneth Hernandez as they share how more laughing leads to more loving.

After watching the video, take turns asking and answering the following questions together. Listen actively to each other — with gentleness and humility — so you each feel heard and free to share. 

  1. What are some of the ways we make each other laugh?
  2. What makes it hard or easy to laugh at yourself? What happens if your spouse joins in?
  3. What would make it easier to laugh when we make silly mistakes in life? (For example, the lasagna story from the video.)

Date Ideas

Here is a list of possible date ideas to enjoy throughout the month. 

  • Go on a bike ride… at a slow and relaxing pace. This is not the Tour de France.
  • Sign up for a wine appreciation or cooking class and learn something new together.
  • Pottery classes can unleash your creative juices and provide lots of laughs as you see how the finished products can look so unique! That way you can channel your inner Patrick Swayze/Demi Moore vibe from the movie Ghost (we’re so totally dating ourselves).
  • Find a good clean comedian who you both enjoy, either in person or online, and spend an hour working on that belly laugh.

More Laughter with God

“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Proverbs 17:22 (ESV)

God’s desire for our marriages is for us to be in harmony, to delight in and enjoy each other’s company. While words can bring joy and laughter, they can also cause distress. Ask each other the questions below and listen with an open mind and heart.

  1. As a couple we have always felt that God has a sense of humour. He has put us in so many situations that are way out of our comfort zone but clearly beneficial for our own —and others’ — spiritual growth! What does it look like to spend time laughing with God?
  2. Looking back at your own life, what are moments that have brought you a joyful heart and made you laugh? Take some time to thank God for the gift of laughter and the humorous moments in life.