Clarity is a gift.
The problem is many of us often forget we can have it in marriage. Instead of seeking clarity or further understanding from our partner we get offended or hurt.
We honestly think we would be rich if we were given a dime for every miscommunication we’ve had as a couple!
Our moods and interactions throughout the day can blur our perception of what has actually been communicated. If we take time to remove the fog from the glass we might find ourselves seeing the situation — and our partner — in a whole new light.
Grab your favourite drink and watch this short video to find out how a little clarity would have saved us a lot of frustration and misunderstanding.
After watching the video, take turns asking and answering the following questions together. Listen actively to each other — with gentleness and humility — so you each feel heard and free to share.
- What are some ways we can have more clarity in our relationship?
- What factors contribute to misunderstandings (mood, tone, body language, etc.)?
- How do we find healing, forgiveness and fairness when things get murky?
- Play a game of Pictionary. It will literally illustrate how difficult it is to communicate when both partners don’t have all the same information!
- Next time you go out for a meal, try ordering for your spouse. How well do you know their food preferences?
- Take turns planning a scavenger hunt. It can be in your house or across town. Have fun coming up with the details!
More Clarity with God
Where do you turn for clarity in your life? Proverbs 2:6-9 (NLT) tells us “For the Lord grants wisdom! From his mouth come knowledge and understanding. He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest. He is a shield to those who walk with integrity. He guards the paths of the just and protects those who are faithful to him. Then you will understand what is right, just, and fair, and you will find the right way to go.”
How has the Lord’s wisdom, knowledge, and understanding given you clarity?
If you feel like you are lacking focus, start by praying Proverbs 2:6-9 over your life.