We were sitting on the lip of a waterfall in a remote area due to a wrong turn. This wrong turn, along with the incoming ocean tide, forced us to this unexpected place. What we found was a spectacular roosting spot on the edge of a waterfall! This was just one of several memorable moments in a seven day backpacking adventure with my sixteen year old daughter on the famous West Coast Trail.
The trip was originally planned with a larger group of people, all of whom backed out. We were determined to go anyway, even by ourselves! So we headed out to blaze the trail. During those seven days together we made lifelong memories, shared great experiences and bonded even more deeply as dad and daughter.
Investments & Long Term Dividends
Sharing memorable moments is an investment that pays major dividends over time. These shared memories become relational glue as time passes. Often these moments are created with intentional planning, but other special memories have become part of our family biography through unplanned events. Some of my fondest family memories have been… camping and fishing trips, regular visits to a friend’s cottage, Dad’s special waffles, and teaching all four of our children to drive.
Seize the Moment
One of my most memorable “accidental” moments happened the day our oldest daughter was to go shopping for a prom dress. My wife had something come up at the last minute, so with a bit of “man fear,” I filled in and took my daughter dress shopping. The moments of shared laughter, her value of my opinion, and being the only man in the store made me realize this is a VERY unique opportunity. We had so much fun that it became an official tradition with each of our three daughters. I do not like shopping, let alone for dresses; however, this was a great opportunity that created a special bonding time with each of my girls.
Memories outlive us. A close friend of mine created memorable moments with his children through a “one on one” hiking/camping trip with one child each summer. A short time ago, my friend passed away. At his funeral, each of his children mentioned these times with deep appreciation in their father’s eulogy.
Memorable moments can even be created while walking through some of life’s difficult challenges. Young drivers and car accidents, for example. It has happened to three of our four children. When the phone call came, the first questions were: “Are you okay?” “Was anyone one hurt?” followed by, “I’ll be right there.” We wanted to communicate to our children they were more important than a damaged car.
What is a great memory for me may not be for my loved one.
While birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays can provide perfect opportunities for memorable moments, it’s important to understand what will or will not create a positive memory for someone else. For example: a few years ago I planned a surprise birthday party for my wife. In my opinion, the party was a huge success. She had been surprised, the party was fun, and the food was good. Later that week she said, “Honey, thanks for the party. You did a good job. I know you enjoy a crowd of people around you; however, a really great evening for me is a special dinner with you or just one other couple.” Lesson learned!
Taking initiative communicates care and value. I had another friend who surprised his wife by arranging a weekend away. She did not suspect anything till they turned off the exit to the airport. The bags were packed. The arrangements for the kids made. She enjoyed the surprise! It doesn’t have to be that big, but taking the time in advance to lay the foundational plans for memorable moments communicates volumes about how much you care and value your loved one!
This summer think about creating memorable moments for you and your family.
- Some may just happen, seize the moment!
- Others will take intentional planning, so start planning!
- Some may come in the form of a challenge. How will they be remembered?
Don’t miss these opportunities, you only have this summer once.